PS: I drafted this blog long back in 2008 when I was darn scared abt arranged marriages...n when I had lost almost all hopes of finding my someone special who is born for me :P....little did I know that "He" has already found me by then and was waiting to enter my world......never expected I will have my own crazy/filmy love story....anyway the draft goes like this....
Ohkk Guyz....get urself introduced to my new style of writing .....Interview style (Q n A form) !! :P hehe........trying to be creative may get CRAZY at times, not my fault !! :P
Note 1: The asker and askee are both myself !! :P ....(Hullooooo, plz stop the grammer check on the sentence!! :P)
Note 2: The following answers are completely based on my opinion (which are forced to get biased towards arranged marriages for now :P), so donot mean to offend any lovers out there :P
Q: Which one do I prefer, love or arranged?
Ans: Both are pretty daunting right now :P.
Q: Advantages of Love marriages?
Ans: Well! you KNOW the person very well before you tie the knot.....you actually fall in LOVE (woww!!).......and you cannot live without that person ( it seems :P ).....wtever it is, the appealing side of it is that you are already comfortable with the person and you look forward to share a lifetime with him.......you admire each other , you fight, you patch up, you basically know all the traits in a person and you get used to them well b4 marriage which makes life easier :).......
Q: Well, so what are the disadvantages of love marriages?
Ans: The reason of increased divorce rate in love marriages is mainly coz ppl take each other for granted.....n things apparently CHANGE after marriage!!.....the equation is completely different b4 and after marriage.....b4 marriage its love, after marriage its more of commitment.........n the intial enthusiam and the trials to impress gradually fade off........which paves way to,.the promises not being kept, expectations being broken.......which leads to disappointment and discontentment.......
Q: Advantages of Arranged marriages!! :)
Ans: The cliched phrase "You have changed so much !!" doesnt exist here :P :))........mainly arranged marriage fares better than love marriage coz both of them know that they are not getting married to the guy/gal of their dreams!!.....they are already prepared in their head that they should adjust......n so no breaking of dreams/expectations :)))....
Arranged marriages tend to hav a wrong notion in most of ppls minds.....things have changed now.....its not anything like u get to see his face directly on the wedding day.......you are given ample time to understand the person after meeting a couple of times and given a choice to proceed only if you are comfortable with him.......ther is no force at all.....
Life feels exciting with a new person......you can discover a new thing about him everyday :)) (ofcourse this can be counted in disadvantges as well :P)......you actually try to change yourself to impress him (This can be surprisingly exciting !! :) ).....its a whole new world which seems quite thrilling......
Q: Disadvantages of arranged marriages!!
Ans: Well, deciding your LIFE PARTNER by a couple of meetings is definetely gonna top the list of its drawbacks :(......its purely a game of luck......having to select smeone based on pics is sheer gambling......Looks definitely are not the ONLY thing which should be considered......Seriously, I myself feel I deserve smeone much much better than what my looks deserve......but unfortunately thats how things work, coz the other way is practically not possible.......
Q: What according to me is the secret of a successful marriage?
Ans: The success of marriage doesnt depend on whether it is love/arranged. It all depends on the ppl involved. All it takes is a bit of maturity, understanding, compromise and ofcourse love :).....but ofcourse gifts/surprises/dates etc are must :P hehe...
Final Q: Soo Have i given up on love mariage completely??..
Ans: Hell NO!!...Not untill I get married !! :P....
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