A mail drafted on Friendship day

It was friendship day..

As usual I was very excited....I wished I was in college when we used to tie friendship bands and party with this excuse :)

It was 9am already and I was already half disappointed that he dint cal yet to wish me "Happy friendship day"

I was waiting for him to cal n wish first....coz he knew how much importance I give to these lil things.....I had always been waiting for such spl days...

I sneaked into his email account to see if he already checked his mails ( proves if he already got up or not :P)....that is when I found this in his latest drafts

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As always, you are entitled to your opinion and this does not mean that I am trying to change your way of looking at the world in anyway. Its just that I was there where you are now and I feel I have evolved from that point on in such matters. I merely want to express what I went through before saying those terrible words “Happy Friendship day” today or for that matter “Happy mother’s day” or “Happy father’s day”, which I never did in my life.

Today I received some typical “happy friendship day” messages on facebook, gmail and orkut and all of them are from the same people who are not really my friends by any stretch of imagination. Them saying those words did not brighten my day in anyway the same way my actual friends not saying those words to me today did not lessen their relation with me.

Back in engineering, my group of friends never said those words to each other and if I say that to anybody, without a doubt anyone in my group would burst into immediate laughter. However, there were certain other groups in our college who tied friendship bands on the day, which made them the laughing stock for us. So, are they really kids and corny and cheesy in behavior compared to us and are we more evolved than them, is subjected to one’s own opinion. You may not find them cheesy and corny but what is not subjected to opinion and is a fact is that if at all there comes a dire need where you need to help your friend who is in your dire need, they would not take one step forward.

For some people, its just being hip and modern. The new generation who were brought up by the world of television and stupid corny romantic movies, easily buys into such things and if you apply your logic, which has been abandoned long ago, you will see where I am coming from. The need to express your feeling of friendship on friendship’s day OR the need to express your love by buying a gift on the Valentine’s day actually displays ones insecurity in the relation more than anything. To me that is disgusting. The funny part about it is most of us don’t even care to know where these dates came from and most likely they were invented by some random jerk in the last 20 or 30 years ago for some stupid reason that we could even care for and the gift card companies and corporates took the advantage and commercialize it in a way that you feel you are not modern until you follow the trend.

To me this not just a hip trend but a dangerous one. Humans have existed for millions of years and we have known records of human relations for at least thousands of years. This trend of celebrating friendship, love, brotherly and sisterly love (oh god save us from this stupidity) probably started in last few decades. So, what about our forefathers who did not know about such days. As the reach of media and corporate businesses has been expanding, the likelihood of this trend becoming a norm in the society is also increasing. In the next few decades, we will have whole generation which will be brought up in this trend. We will then reach a stage where people will actually be offended for not being greeted. Hopefully, I will die before this.

So, when someone tells me “happy friendship day”, I either see his/her insecurity or see the blatant ignorant and innocent consumer culture in him/her. And when I flinch just hearing those words, imagine me saying me those words.

I see this trend more popular in India than else where. Being one of the most dimwitted nations around the world, we blindly follow whatever West feeds us. One glance at youtube proves this. Just type in freindships day in the search box and you will see 9 out 10 videos being from our great nation."

I sat silent for a loong time after reading it....every word of it was true....I never really thought soo much about it anyday....all I wanted was an excuse for celebration.....I felt soo foolish after reading it.....it wasnt some discovery I dint know of, but somehow it shook me a bit......I felt soo bad that he had been thinking soo much that he even started to write abt it......but somehow I liked his way of thinking and made me happier to know this aspect of him.....i never knew that he was doing all such stuff only to make me happy all the while....felt really bad and guilty.....i was somehow moved a lot by reading it

My phone started ringing....It was him.....I picked up..

He greeted..." Happy friendship day ra bangaram"

PS: He never mentioned about the draft till date.

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Oh Ya! My Thesis Acknowledgment :) :P

PS:  This post was drafted in Nov 2010 but publishing it now. That explains how busy (lazy :P) i had been :).


Abstract of Acknowledgment :P

"I am thankful to all my cincinnati friends for making my stay at UC a cherishable one. Spl thanks to Aparna, Bharat, Deepika, Himaja, Raja and Sudhir for being a home away from home. Also spl thanks to Ravan for bearing with me and my silly doubts and helping me in getting going. I would like to thank my parents, my brother yashu, my bf kishan , for their support, encouragement and unwavering love are undeniably the bedrock upon which my life has been built. To these 4 ppl, I dedicate my thesis !!! "


Acknowledgment:

Today Nov 24th 2010 I am on the verge of completing my masters degree. This is the day, I feel a sense of achievement. This is the day I had been waiting all my life. This is the day, I wish I was with my parents to see the spark ( and/or tears) of pride in their eyes.

Landed in US in Aug 2007.....Past 3 yrs in United States has flown real fast....but it has taught me several things which I never hoped to ever learn in life.....comon I am not talking abt cooking and cleaning kinda stuff :P....serious ga cheptunte enti abba meeru :P... 

I really cant forget the pangs of homesickness I felt for the first few months.....but by virtue of suppa7 gang, found a home away from home....found a family away from family....
The days at Cincinnati were super fun...the people amazing....i have learnt many things from each one of them.....n most importantly, as a group, we just rocked!....be it countless nightouts, potlucks, outings, trips, group assignments or just plain timepassing, everything was awesome.....without these guyz, things wouldnt have been the same....like it is said, life @ US is mainly defined by the roommates, I really feel that the reason for my enjoyable stay at UC is coz of my friends aka roomies Aparna, Bharat, Deepika, Himaja, Jayasree, Kalpana, Raja and Sudhir. (Sudhir dont feel bad, names are listed in alphabetical order :P hehe) . Time pass, watching movies, playing games (esp Klueless), chitchatting, or playing counterstrike :P, everything was just fun. As I type the words scioto/morgan and lookout apts, streams of memoies flood down my mind :((....How much I wish I could relive those moments with all of these guyz...my previous attempt to capture all the memories @ cincy is available here [1] ( Thesis writing effect :P)

My sincere thanks to all of you guyz for your support and love for the past years. Raja needs spl mention for really supporting me and also helping me out in many challenges in life and also in career. Really his guidance and friendship made a whole lot of difference to my life. Also I should be very thankful to Ravan for responding and reaching out a helping hand every single time I asked him dumb questions in Java :). Without his support my thesis would never have been finished. By support I mean both technical and moral :). Also I am extremely grateful to my roomies Rajini, Preethi, Harika and Anita for constanly scolding me to concentrate on thesis :P hehe. It really did help guyz ;). This acknowledgement would be incomplete without a spl mention of My sister Madhavi and my brother Naveen whose moral support always gives me a boost, My best friend Shravan for supporting me since past 10 years through thick and thin in life.

Most importantly I would like to thank my parents to whom this day would bring a spark of pride in their eyes. They are the reason for which I am here today. My brother Yashwanth who is more than just a brother or a friend or a twinsoul [2], [3]. My fiance Kishan whose moral support helped me focus on my work [4] . I would like to convey my heartfelt gratitude to these people for without these people I cannot imagine Life .  To these 4 people, I dedicate my thesis. Lastly, I want to thank God for blessing me with everything I have asked for.

References:
[1] http://k-harika.blogspot.com/2010/04/queen-citykind-size-memories.html
[2] http://k-harika.blogspot.com/2006/03/my-chweeeeeeet-love.html
[3] http://k-harika.blogspot.com/2007/12/blog-about-being-twinsoula-bestfriend.html
[4] http://k-harika.blogspot.com/2010/09/as-much-as-i-had-been-waiting-for-it.html

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My Wedding Invitation

Kishan and I are all set to get locked forever in the wedlock :)....

On Feb 20th, 11.39pm we take vows in presence of all our loved ones to celebrate the accomplishment of a beautiful dream and the beginning of a much more beautiful reality.

Your presence is most cherished on this occasion.

Youtube link :

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GJXYvlg8O5A

Come, Share this moment with Us:

Being single was fun, but just not perfect
Yes, we are bored of our Solos, its time for a duet :)

Mind you, I dint fall for a single rose or a violet
He showered me with a love-filled basket :)

Finally, I have someone who would lend me his jacket
For I am truly his most valuable asset :P

Convinced our family and relatives cabinet
Extremely glad are they, for our new journey is onset

To catch me in a bride’s bonnet
And Well,  to see the effect of my diet :P
Waiting for you, will be a beautiful banquet
Please be there on Feb, the 20th

Of course, there is no entry ticket :P
I m sure, your bonding with us will work like a magnet

Don’t you dare forget
Coz if you do, you would regret

What we would do is a secret
But surely, u will have to take a tablet :P

Wedding Events:

Pre-Wedding Reception :

Feb 20th, 7pm

Hotel Greenpark , Begumpet, Hyderabad

Wedding:

Feb 20th, 11:39pm

Hotel Greenpark , Begumpet, Hyderabad

Reception:

Feb 22nd, 7pm

Hotel Swarna Palace, Near Challapalli Bunglow,

Governorpet, Vijayawada 

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My engagement pics

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Exam Tensionnnn !!!

It was a big day for Ramu..

He was getting ready to face the entrance exam he had been scared all his life…

He knew that his performance today will bring immense joy to his parents….

But the stress and pressure were also immense…

He was not confident….but his parents were…

Of course he had been preparing for this all his life… ( Unfortunately “Komaram Puli” came recently , otherwise his mother would have adopted same policy by reading to him ever since he was in her womb :P :P)….

He was scared that he might end up disappointing his parents…..His parents meant a lot to him and he was all determined to do anything to bring smiles on their faces….But exams are not always easy…esp this was a computer based test…..he had worked very hard day in day out to crack this one…..he was really nervous……n so were his parents…..he had never seen his parents with so much anticipation…..one look into their eyes brought more sweat on his forehead…….he wanted to runaway to escape from this situation…..but he was helpless……he knew engineering was his only option in career.....he had to crack this test to see pride in their eyes......

Both his parents came with him to the exam center……after kissing and wishing him all the best, he stepped into the exam hall…..his parents sat waiting for him outside the hall with crossed fingers……what if he doesn’t pass the exam? They wondered…..the thought itself was scary……they decided not to think about it…..they just waited hoping that everything will be fine……

Ramu came out happily….he seemed to have done fairly good….but we never know until the results are out…

On the day of results, They had a party at home…

Ramu successfully got admission into the IIT section of 3rd class :) :P

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Dear 2010

Dear 2010,

I think you should be awarded an oscar for fastest year of my life category :P....anyway I knw you were not expecting this mail coz nobody bothers about u now that 2011 has taken the limelight :P......i had been soo busy last 2 weeks that I could not take some time off to thank you for alll the wonderful things you have given me....really sorry for that.....anyway your performance rating statistics reveal that you have totally exceeded my expectations......I know that this might put more pressure on 2011 to reach upto my expectations :P....but u have to train 2011 to be even more nice to me.....

Your end marks not just your ending but the ending of this decade.....this decade which had been so dear to me......the decade which has given me memories for a lifetime......teenage life, friends, college days, relationships, college canteens, road side dabhas, crushes, class bunks, combined studies, thrashings at home, trickies on bikes , fun filled engg days, US of A, awesome grad life,responsibilities, california, achievements, love, ok dont worry I wont get started again with my emotional drama.....so I just wanted to convey that I had really enjoyed the past decade and I really realy wish those days come back....

"Singlehood ninchi vimukthi ichav :P......Lifelong oka todu ichav....awesome friends ni ichav....cheyyadaniki internship ichav.....1 month ki yashu ni US ki teppinchav.....proud feel avvadaniki masters degree ichav......inkaa santoshinchadaniki job full-time convert kuda chesav...kaani enduku intha early ga chachav :P :P...ayina kuda nuvvu naku nachaav :) "

Really cant believe that it is already 2011....cant believe I have been in US for 3 yrs already.....cnt believe its been 4 yrs since my undergrad.....OMG cant believe its been 25yrs since I was born :P!!....I m not kidding guyzz, It really is a shocking realization.....

25 already!.....around right time to get married :P.....n indeed I am :).....on Feb 20....wait! this is not how I wanted to announce it.....anyway now that it has already been leaked, do plan to attend it...will send out a invite later on......Feb 20, 11.30pm, Green park hotel, Hyderabad.

Dearest 2010, please dont feel bad that your time is over....you are immortal....coz I have captured all of you through my Nikon D90 :P....now you are all over my new 2TB harddrive :P.

Goodbye

Yours lovingly,
MISS. Harika
( My every email contains this signature nowadays :P )

An appointment with Santa :)

If you had one wish to ask for urself , what would it be?
I asked myself for the 100th time..
Whatever the wish was, Santa was known to fulfil it.....n I was about to meet him at 10am to make a wish....n he will grant it..
Seriously??!!! You are being granted a wish n u dnt knw what to ask for??....I wondered..
I thought hard.....I had many things I wanted to happen...but most of them are not for me personally....they are for my loved ones....but today, santa's condition was to wish for smething affecting me n my life only..
I didnt knw why I was among a very few picked by Santa this christmas for this wish-fulfiling opportunity....
I thought hard....i had many things on my mind...but everything seemed very petty.....dint want to waste sucha lucky chance by asking too small a wish....
I got ready to leave the house....stepped out into the street....
Cool breeze touched my skin.....simultaneously the sun shined.....a typical winter morning in california..... wid soo much decoration on d streets, One cud not miss Christmas was round the corner...
Excitement to meet santa started to sink in...i started feeling more happier...but I still dint decide what to ask for....
I started thinking again....harder....
Cmon, only 1 wish?...This isnt fair , I thought :P....Deciding on only 1 wish to ask for a lifetime isnt sucha easy thing u knw :)...
probably I can use a conjunction to add more than 1 wish in a single wish :P..
or prehaps I should frame my sentence very carefully to fetch the most out of it :P...
may be I should ask for something permanent which ll last for a long long time..
may be I should ask something like take me to the moon or smething :P, but then I ll also have to ask for pani puri supply there :P
may be I should ask for availability of seetaphal (custard apple) throughout the year :P
may be I should ask for a tasty food which reduces fat content in body :P
my mind started getting overwhlemed with the things I had always wished for....
I was next in line for the appointment....I had only 5mins to decide on the final wish...
Excitement turned into tension :P...I started sweating....
5mins passed...n It was my turn..
He asked "What do you want"
I sound of those words made me think "What do I want?? "
Slowly I found the answer in myself and this brought a bright smile on my face...
He asked again " What do u wanna ask for?"
I smiled and answered " Nothing, I already got what I wanted in life"
He looked surprised. He dint seem to understand.
I smiled, showed him my engagement ring and walked away....
:) :) :)
Merry christmas and Happy new year guyzzz :))

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